Fr. O’Connor’s Homily: January 10, 2016

Feast of the Baptism of the Lord-C


Isaiah 40: 1-5, 9-11
Titus 2: 11-14; 3:4-7
Luke 3: 15-16, 21-22


Harriet Beecher Stowe [1811-1896], the author of Uncle Tom’s Cabin, wrote about an experience she had that was greater than any praise an audience or critics could offer her.  The assignment that was given in school was to write an essay, the best of which would be read at the school graduation.

The best essay was read and the audience applauded at the end.  Then the name of the author was revealed, and it was Harriet.  When she looked out into the audience and saw her father’s face, it was the greatest gift she could ever imagine:  seeing the pride, the love and the approval of her dad.

We all deeply desire to be wanted, loved and approved.  And on this Sunday when we bring the Christmas season to a close, we celebrate the Feast of the Baptism of the Lord.

Jesus is baptized by His cousin, John the Baptist, in the Jordan River.  And “heaven was opened and the Holy Spirit descended upon Him in bodily form like a dove.  And a voice came from heaven, ‘You are my beloved Son.  With you I am well pleased.’”  What a beautiful affirmation for Jesus to hear from His heavenly Father.

Our behavior tends to mirror how we feel about ourselves.  One boy was born in Eastern Europe in 1892, and another boy was born in Illinois in 1895.  Both of them were Catholics and were altar servers.  And both of them dropped a cruet of altar wine right in the sanctuary which broke and splattered wine all over the place.

The boy in Eastern Europe was scolded by his priest:  “You clumsy oaf!  Get out of the sanctuary!  You will never serve here again!”

The boy in Illinois heard this from his priest:  “Don’t worry.  Accidents happen.  Someday you will be a great priest of God.”

The first boy eventually lost his faith and became a Communist and the dictator of Yugoslavia named Tito.  The second boy did indeed become a priest and we knew him as Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen.

Now that is not to say that one accident with a wine cruet fundamentally shaped both of those boys. But it is to say that the messages we hear and internalize do have an effect on the ways that we live our lives.

The painter Pablo Picasso said that when he was young his mother used to tell him:  “Pablo, if you join the army I know that you will end up being a general.  And if you become a monk, I know that you will eventually become the pope.”

And Picasso added:  “So I became an artist, and eventually became Picasso!”  No self-image problems here!  But he gave his mother’s vision for him a lot of credit for his success.

We all need people who believe in us, no matter what our age.  We all need to feel wanted and loved and approved.

And those of us who have an influence on younger people know how important it is to make a distinction between someone’s misdeeds and their essential worth as a person.

There was a mother of three pre-school children who were very energetic.  And someone asked her, after a very trying day, if she had it to do all over again, would she still have children?

Exasperated, she answered:  “I certainly would.  But not these.”  Yes, it was work raising those youngsters!

Another mother asked her pediatrician when she should best put her children to bed.  And the doctor answered:  “While you still have the strength.”  Yes it is work, but it is worth it.

And we make a distinction between a child’s misdeeds and the child’s worth as a person.  There is a world of difference between saying, “You are a bad boy.  You are a bad girl” – and, “What you have done is a bad thing to do.”

The conductor Arturo Toscanini wondered his whole life if his mother really loved him.  At the end of a concert, audiences would clap and cheer and rise to their feet.  But he always wondered if his success brought any joy to his mother’s heart.

Another woman with a painful upbringing wrote that when her mother died, she was quite relieved because “there was one less pair of eyes looking at her in judgment.”

We all need to feel wanted, loved and approved.  We need to make a distinction between someone’s misdeeds and their worth as a person.  When we look at the cross, we see Jesus doing this.  He makes a distinction between our sins – which are real – and our worth.  Even while still sinners, we are worth so much to God that He sent His beloved Son to die for us, so that we could live with God forever as His beloved sons and daughters.

A little girl was running around in the house and caused a vase to fall and break.  That vase was a family heirloom.  Her mother came into the room and the little girl expected her to be angry.  But she never forgot what her mother said:  “Oh, honey, are you alright?  I heard the crash and I was afraid that you were hurt.”  And she realized that in her mother’s eyes – in spite of the broken vase – she was really the family’s treasure.

We heard God the Father say about His Son, Jesus, at His baptism in the Jordan River:  “You are my beloved Son.  With you I am well pleased.”  What a beautiful affirmation for Jesus to hear from His heavenly Father.

When we were baptized, God adopted each of us into His family.  And God feels the same way about us too.  “You are my beloved son.  You are my beloved daughter.  With you I am well pleased.”

What a beautiful affirmation for us to hear from our heavenly Father.

What a beautiful life-giving and life-changing affirmation for others to hear through us when they need to feel wanted and loved and approved.



Fr. O’Connor’s Homily: January 3, 2016

Feast of the Epiphany


Isaiah 60: 1-6
Ephesians 3: 2-3a, 5-6
Matthew 2: 1-12


We call the visitors from the East who followed a star and came to Bethlehem by different names:  the Magi, the astrologers, the wise men and the three kings.  But in spite of their many titles, they came for a single purpose:  to worship the Christ Child, the newborn King.

Their reason for following that star is found in the name of today’s feast:  the Epiphany.  It means “a manifestation,” “a showing.”  Jesus, the Son of God and the Son of Mary, manifested Himself, showed Himself to the entire world through these non-Jewish visitors.

“The Gentiles are coheirs” with the Jews, “members of the same body, and copartners in the promise in Christ Jesus through the Gospel,” Paul tells us today in his letter to the Ephesians.

We see this Epiphany event here at the manger.  Three wise men are there, with a camel in tow.  And there are many legends about these men.

One says that after the star that was leading them came to rest over the stable in Bethlehem, it then dropped into a well.  And that if you have a pure heart, you can look into that well and see that star shining beneath its water.

Another legend claimed that there were twelve wise men.  But later on, it settled upon three, although the Scriptures do not tell us how many there were.  The number three is very logical since they brought three gifts:  gold, frankincense and myrrh.

Another says that they themselves were eastern kings who came to pay homage to the newborn King of the world.

Another gives them names:  Caspar, Melchior and Balthazar.

But the Scriptures do tell us that these visitors from the East were not Jewish but followed a star and found the Christ Child, offered their gifts and paid Him homage.  And in the three gifts that they brought we find a lot of symbolism.

Gold was a gift for a king.  We have a practice today that, when you visit someone’s home for dinner, you take a small gift with you to present to the host or hostess.  In the East, if you were fortunate enough to be invited to visit the king, you would take a substantial gift to present to him.  And gold was considered the most appropriate gift to give to a king.

The gift of gold was the Magi’s acknowledgement that Jesus truly was a king – but a different kind of king than the rulers of this world.  Jesus did not rule by fear but by love.  He did not reign from an earthly throne but from the throne of His cross.  And we need to submit to His kingship.

There is a story from years ago about Lord Nelson in the British Navy.  He was known to be kind and gracious when other military officers came to him to surrender.  One day an enemy admiral boarded Lord Nelson’s ship to surrender.  Knowing that he was a kind a gracious man, the admiral approached Lord Nelson with an outstretched hand.  And Lord Nelson, with his arms at his side, said to the surrendering admiral:  “First your sword and then your hand.”  He needed to submit.

And so do you and I before Christ our King.  He comes to us in friendship, making us a part of His family.  But first we must submit to his kingship.  And so gold was the first gift of the Magi to Christ the newborn King.

The gift of frankincense was for a priest.  In temple worship, incense was used as a sign of our prayers rising before God with a pleasing fragrance before Him.

The Latin word for high priest is “pontifex,” which means “a bridge builder.”  Jesus our Priest is the bridge between God and the human race.  Jesus makes God available to us and takes our prayers to God.  And so frankincense was the second gift of the Magi to Christ the Priest.

The gift of myrrh was for someone who was going to die.  In those days, a body was prepared for burial with a spice called myrrh.  It was an early form of embalming.  But this third gift of myrrh was a sign that Christ, the newborn King and Priest, would one day die on the cross so that we could live forever.

There is a painting by Holman Hunt that depicts Jesus in His teenage years.  He is working hard in the carpenter shop late one afternoon and is tired.  So He goes to the doorway and stretches out His arms against the door jamb.  And the sunlight comes through the door and casts a shadow on the back wall of the carpenter shop.

In the background is Mary who sees the shadow of the cross on that back wall and her face registers sorrow and fear because she catches a glimpse of what will happen to her Son one day.  He – our King and our Priest and our Saving Victim – will die on the cross so that we can live forever.

The gifts of the Magi are very heavy with meaning:  gold for a king, frankincense for a priest, and myrrh for someone who would die.  This feast of the Epiphany is the manifestation of Christ to the world:  to Jew and Gentile alike.  And so the response to Psalm 72 that we sang today after the first reading continues to ring true down to our own day:  “Lord, every nation on earth will adore you.”


Fr. O’Connor’s Homily: January 1, 2016

Solemnity of Mary, the Holy Mother of God

New Year’s Day



Numbers 6: 22-27
Galatians 4: 4-7
Luke 2: 16-21


On this New Year’s Day, we celebrate the Solemnity of Mary, the Holy Mother of God.

“Mary is our only savior from an abstract Christ,” says Coventry Patmore.  Mary teaches us, as no other person can, about the down-to-earthness of Jesus Christ and His Church.

The Son of God – who was conceived and carried in her womb, born in a stable, nursed at her breasts, cried on her shoulder, and grew under her care – can hardly be abstract and unreal.  Neither Jesus – nor His Mystical Body, the Church – are always neat, tidy and predictable.

Yet we expect that of the Church at times, don’t we?  Our pastor should be perfect, our parishioners always smiling, our bishop ever attentive, and the Church always pristine and pure.

Good grief!  Wake up!  Mary will set us straight.  We are working for a God who didn’t even get a proper room for the birth of His Son, and yet we want a Church where everything is absolutely ideal all the time!

Something tells me that at the time of the flight into Egypt – when King Herod was out to kill all the boys of Bethlehem under the age of two because he was threatened by the news of a Newborn King – that even Mary might have been tempted to re-connect with the Archangel Gabriel and call it all off.  There was nothing comfortable and cozy about any of that scene.

Mary teaches us that being a disciple of Jesus brings some uncertainty to us.  We can be very proud of our resumes and have a career path all charted out.  Mary smiles and says that when you say “yes” to the Lord you are surrendering your most prized commodity:  your desire to control every detail of your life.

“Get ready for surprises,” Mary says to us:  some plums and some prunes, some Bethlehems and some lost-in-the-temple episodes.  In other words, be prepared for some twists and turns as you put your life in the hands of God.  But trust in God.  He does have a plan for you and He promises that it will all turn out for the best in the end.

Mary shows us the necessity of being faithful to God in the joys and in the sorrows of being disciples of Jesus.  She was there at the happiest moment ever – the first Christmas morning.  And she was there at the saddest event ever – at the foot of the cross on Good Friday afternoon.

Our lives will have their Bethlehems and their Calvarys too.  Mary’s lesson is that what is happening to us is not as significant as with whom it is happening.  For at the crib and at the cross she is close to Jesus.  She is faithful to Him.

Mary’s impact on us would be so much less if we only had the account of her at Christmas and not at Calvary – if we only had the Madonna with Child and not the Pieta when He is taken down from the cross.

And so we are faithful to Christ when His Church is fresh and full of promise – as was the Infant of Bethlehem.  And we are faithful to Christ when His Church is lifeless and bleeding – as on Calvary.

As the old saying goes, “God may not have favorites, but His Mother sure does.”  Jesus gave Mary to us to be our Mother too.  She looks at each one of us with the same motherly love with which she looks at Jesus.  She helps us to persevere in our calling to serve her Son – and God’s Son – faithfully.

Holy Mary, Mother of Jesus and our Mother too, we place our lives in your loving care.